Do you think you are ready for motherhood? What makes you so sure? Aside from wanting children to love a child and feeling biologically inclined to have, how you do you know you are ready to be a mom? I always loved kids and been around children my whole life. I considered myself to be a loving and caring person, but was I ready to be a mom? All these questions I did not ask myself? Honestly, nothing prepares you for the first night of motherhood. Dragon days! I am here to help you, like really prepare you for the honest, real truth about being a mother and my number one tip on how to prepare.
What does having a baby really look like?
Any women who says she is ready to be a mom for the first time is very hopeful. She has no idea what she is talking about. Nothing really prepares you for the utter shock motherhood brings. I apologize for my honesty, especially if you weren’t prepared for it, but this blog is here to show another perspective of motherhood. But coming from a mom of three beautiful amazing children who I truly adore, taking complete and utter care of a newborn is devastating. It is the most selfless act of love you can give. You are entrusted to care for this tiny human. So let’s first take stock of what that really means. Let me start with a few scenarios:
- Not getting up and going out for brunch and dinner randomly (you need a babysitter sis)
- Sleeping in and beauty rest, sure in 18 years when they leave for college
- Quiet time to read and watch a show peacefully whenever.
It is a blessing for us to have a few months while pregnant to prepare, and thankfully for childbirth class.
Taking childbirth class definitely does a wonderful job of giving a hands on approach filled with helpful information to take in. Take any class you can such especially breastfeeding, newborn care class because it’s filled with the medical, practical and emotional information you need to start off on the right foot.
You have dedicated time to sit in a class, ask someone direct questions you may not feel comfortable asking your doctor and friends. Its a safe space with moms in the same place as you. You can find childbirth classes everywhere now, at your hospital, birthing center, wiht your doula, and non-profit organizations locally. Also it way better to take with your partners if around, they need the information too. Heres an link to a local class in DC
I want you to go into this new journey on the right foot and be emotionally prepared more than anything because that is the part you can’t really prepare for. Whatever you need to do to mentally prepare, please do. Getting all the baby stuff is cool but when you are alone in the dark with a crying baby, is real motherhood.